Do you bear grudges, if so for how long ?

Despite my protestations that the age of 44 has brought me enlightenment and understanding , tonight several folk pointed out that I hold grudges , one used the expression ' hold the cat to the sun ' a new term to me but quite evocative nonetheless .

My peers pointed out that even now if I see Mr S Th.... of Little Hulton ( where I grew up ), my demeanour changes , face like thunder etc , and I tell all in earshot about the day the cunt took me legs from under me in a local Sunday league game and how I swear I will have vengence in this life or the next ( probably the next, the Mac footie legs are now only available in old sepia photos ).

I conceded they had a point.

Anyone else harbour more grudges than lonely highcourt judges ?

This particular one of mine clocks in at about 25 years, others a mere coupla years

I hate you for starting this thread, and will make it my life's purpose to get my revenge for it

:p

don't really hold grudges, get pissed off about things/people until I feel better. Some things are unforgiveable but there's no point letting disputes consume you.

good question.

I've never been one to harbour a really bad grudge for a long time then let rip at a later date. I think because I cant hold a really bad feeling against someone for very long.

Having said that, if someone killed someone I loved I would wait until they left prison and eat them. Then spend the rest of my days in a prison cell with a smile....and a full belly.

ah fuck, I dunno

i hold grudges a long, long time... i guess i have nothing better to do, seems like forgiveness without reason is weak and lacking in personal integrety and honesty... how can you compromise yourself?

it always baffles me how women that I work with act like nothing happened when they do something selfish and assholish... I mean, like, give me a reason to trust you since I've learned to distrust you, it doesnt take much...

pumped full of drugs wrote: i hold grudges a long, long time... i guess i have nothing better to do, seems like forgiveness without reason is weak and lacking in personal integrety and honesty... how can you compromise yourself?

it always baffles me how women that I work with act like nothing happened when they do something selfish and assholish... I mean, like, give me a reason to trust you since I've learned to distrust you, it doesnt take much...

nice joke

next time make it a bit more believable, no one is that weird.

it takes a lot of cruelty for me to bear a grudge, and even then I'm more likely to just forgive and forget because my life's too worthwhile to waste it thinking about jerks.

It depends. Some people, I can forgive, if it's rather minor, or if they were just an asshole once.

But when I was 13, these kids in school kept telling a teacher on me, saying I was upsetting them with my behavior. And I was eventually kicked out of school. So, if I ever saw one of them, I honestly probably would beat them up on the sidewalk. Kids like that deserve it, in my opinion. I wouldn't ever try to get another kid kicked out of a school.

No, but i never forget

When I first read this I thought what a lovely person I must be. A lot have people have done some really unforgivable things to me in the past and I honestly don't have the time or energy to be bothered. Their nastiness is their problem and they have to live with it. However......then I got to thinking of something really trivial which still makes my blood boil and whenever I see the person (or indeed any of her family) I give the most dirty looks and could quite happily twat them.

When I was 8, I apparently (but have no recollection) called a girl called Quersa "pig face", her father came into the class when the teacher was elsewhere and threatened me. I was so frightened that I didn't tell the teacher when she returned.(the other kids just laughed) It makes me mad just thinking about it. So in answer to your question Gary. YES I FOOKING DO!!!!!!!!!

Better go and have a nice cup of tea.

arguments and fallouts (especially with Family) can sometimes take ages to get settled, or for people to start talking again.

but once all that's settled, you should never hold a grudge.

it only fucks you up. not the other person.

I used to when i was younger, but life's too short. It just makes you stress out about things so it's really not worth it.

my family is really good at holding grudges, as was my mother, until it was too late to make up. sometimes they didn't speak to each other for years, sometimes over things that happend half a century ago. thankfully i am not like that.

No I don't have the UPSET button

I am the precise opposite of a grudge holder.I fucking explode if pushed to far or pissed of, I rant and yell and hit things ( never people, only things) and stamp me little booties. The 10 mins later, if left to my own devices, I calm down and feel shit. having said that, I bear one or two lifelong grudges (a guy who told vicious lies about me and cost me a woman who was a true soul mate, and a few bullies from school. The first is really just hurt that aint stopped after 7 years but there are a few people in the 2nd category that I look forward to hurting badly.)

EDIT: I should remind you all that I am from somewhere where cunts hold grudges in their DNA. I mean FFS, all the killing and bombing and rioting in NI is all over the fact that the Catholics stole King Billie's Orange clipper lighter 300 PLUS years ago!!. There will be no peace in Ireland til the bastards hand it back, filled and with a new flint!

NObabe wrote: No I don't have the UPSET button

Good girl!

NObabe wrote: No I don't have the UPSET button

You fuckin liar maya....you have an upset button the sie of a dinner plate :D it just never stays pressed for longer than what?..... 3 seconds ?

Steve Campbell wrote: I am the precise opposite of a grudge holder.I fucking explode if pushed to far or pissed of, I rant and yell and hit things ( never people, only things) and stamp me little booties. The 10 mins later, if left to my own devices, I calm down and feel shit. having said that, I bear one or two lifelong grudges (a guy who told vicious lies about me and cost me a woman who was a true soul mate, and a few bullies from school. The first is really just hurt that aint stopped after 7 years but there are a few people in the 2nd category that I look forward to hurting badly.)

EDIT: I should remind you all that I am from somewhere where cunts hold grudges in their DNA. I mean FFS, all the killing and bombing and rioting in NI is all over the fact that the Catholics stole King Billie's Orange clipper lighter 300 PLUS years ago!!. There will be no peace in Ireland til the bastards hand it back, filled and with a new flint!

surely 12 years into your sentence Ste, the screws and the victims family still dont bear a grudge?

By the way Kershaw you'd better pray i don't hold grudges.

john kershaw wrote:

surely 12 years into your sentence Ste, the screws and the victims family still dont bear a grudge?

families never get over things like that, the wardrobe was an antique, the dog was a special family member, I genuinely didn;t know that the "pig's fat" was industrial barrier cream, the major-clanger costume belonged to the departed husband, and I had no idea the grandmother would become involved.

As for the screws, I been doing new shit to them on a daily basis, yesterday I chalked "paisley for pope" on the back on of one of them before he headed into the "dangerous terrorist psycho wing".

Steve Campbell wrote:

john kershaw wrote:

surely 12 years into your sentence Ste, the screws and the victims family still dont bear a grudge?

families never get over things like that, the wardrobe was an antique, the dog was a special family member, I genuinely didn;t know that the "pig's fat" was industrial barrier cream, the major-clanger costume belonged to the departed husband, and I had no idea the grandmother would become involved.

As for the screws, I been doing new shit to them on a daily basis, yesterday I chalked "paisley for pope" on the back on of one of them before he headed into the "dangerous terrorist psycho wing".

You have a vivid imagination (or a good memory)

I don't hold grudges, depending on what it is, i either forgive, or, i just cut contact with people completely and get on with my life without ever looking back.

No messing with me!

The "life's too short" argument just doesn't stack up.

Yeah, it is too short. Too short to waste it building bridges with someone who's wronged you. Give everyone you meet in life a fair crack of the whip, if they throw it back in your face then fuck 'em. There's too many good friends I don't get to see enough of without wasting time trying to make peace with people who've crossed me.

FAO GARY MAC

Are you the "Macca" I have saved in my phonebook? Was I talking to you prior to the Apollo Gig about Mick Jones? If it was let me know. Cheers.

Life is too short to bear grudges forever but I do remain suspicious.

I don't bear grudges.. I don't even remember most of the time...

I'm oblivious.

I kind of agree with Glavegas on this one.I prefer not to waste my valuable time trying to be friends again with people who pissed me off.I just have nothing to do with them.

No I don't have the UPSET button

What buttons do you have Maya, and can i press em ?

Steve Campbell wrote:

EDIT: I should remind you all that I am from somewhere where cunts hold grudges in their DNA. I mean FFS, all the killing and bombing and rioting in NI is all over the fact that the Catholics stole King Billie's Orange clipper lighter 300 PLUS years ago!!. There will be no peace in Ireland til the bastards hand it back, filled and with a new flint!

I do carry grudges, but I don't let it eat me up.

Usually I'm a lot more forgiving of my friends than of my family. If it's my friends who've done me wrong, I forgive them. If it's family, I hold a grudge.

Miss Disco wrote: Usually I'm a lot more forgiving of my friends than of my family. If it's my friends who've done me wrong, I forgive them. If it's family, I hold a grudge.

Wise words :D

Re: Vegas' comments...there's a difference between woring out someone is a tosser and acting accordingly, and holding a lifelong resentment for someone over a single incident in light of other, non arsehol actions. It's not holding a grudge to know that some guy you worked with for 4 years is a fucking pleb who doesn't deserve the time of day, a grudge is getting cut up in traffic and scraping the same car 6 months later in a car park :D

As the punchline goes, (South African accent required),

" .... of course I have a grudge, where do you think I keep my car?"

James Thomas wrote: As the punchline goes, (South African accent required),

" .... of course I have a grudge, where do you think I keep my car?"

JT, obviously in comedy mode today?!

thanks for the replies ,seems noolys are a pretty grounded lot , either that or economical with the truth:\ohwell: Lucyjane , who'da thought .

FAO , Mr Glasvegas , it'll be ourkids number in yer phone , he's been trying to contact Manchester Kev ( Mick Jones / longtime Clash associate ), I think in the absence of anything certain to bring to you and your mate with the bar , he hasn't 'phoned you . However he is already on his second mobile this year , so the lack of a call may be down to forgetfulness , I'd bear him a little grudge just in case:D