Psycho emailers

Someone I’ve known since I was 14 has become obsessed with me and it’s not even funny. I keep receiving those pathetic ‘where are you? why don’t you answer me?’ emails on a daily basis and I can’t help but freak out each fucking time!!

People tell me I shall ignore them by simply not replying cause I’m 2,000 miles away FFS and so I’ve tried my best, honest I have, but to no avail.

Even the members of my family often get distracted by phone calls from the said person always asking the same question over and over again whether I’m fine or hmm maybe not as if the person would prefer the latter as an answer for some unexplainable reason.

The distance has made me realize who my true friends are and although the person has not done anything really bad to me (yet!) except that I’m occasionally fuming and pissed, I must admit that I just don’t have the guts to say piss off. Not even via email.

So how do YOU solve a problem like Maria?

:(

Add them to the spam filter, so you never get the mail.....

I'll have a word with one of our new Serbian mates.

All we need is a name, you won't hear from her again.

get his address and get Johnny to steam in.

upper cuts. low blows. and a clip around the ears.

that'll sort it.

Edit:: errrr...not if its a girl though.

BIGINOIL wrote: I'll have a word with one of our new Serbian mates.

All we need is a name, you won't hear from her again.

DON'T!! I'm begging you and I'm not joking

ps - What made you think it's her? I never revealed. :)

If she's blonde and got big tits, then I'd just leave it. everything will be ok.

Politely explain that you are now living in another country and do not have the time or the inclination to use a computer ().

Don't ask that person any questions at all and just say you hope they have a nice life.

If that doesn't get the message across, give me your email details and I'll send the message for you!

Missy Jem wrote: Politely explain that you are now living in another country and do not have the time or the inclination to use a computer ().

Don't ask that person any questions at all and just say you hope they have a nice life.

If that doesn't get the message across, give me your email details and I'll send the message for you!

Cryin' shame that you can't wrap an email round a brick aint it :D

Missy Jem wrote: Politely explain that you are now living in another country and do not have the time or the inclination to use a computer ().

Don't ask that person any questions at all and just say you hope they have a nice life.

If that doesn't get the message across, give me your email details and I'll send the message for you!

As a matter of fact, I just did. I said I was tired of the person acting possessive politely explaining that if the person doesn't spend its free time in front of its pc at home, then why the fuck should I?

That's disrespect for my time. Full stop.

No replies yet. Phew! :)

HAS THIS MAN BEEN E-HARRASING YOU!??!?!

erm.... nope

Who said they're still 2000 miles away? They could be sitting at the top of your road. Watching, waiting, for you to justify your love ooh ooh...

NObabe wrote:

Missy Jem wrote: Politely explain that you are now living in another country and do not have the time or the inclination to use a computer ().

Don't ask that person any questions at all and just say you hope they have a nice life.

If that doesn't get the message across, give me your email details and I'll send the message for you!

As a matter of fact, I just did. I said I was tired of the person acting possessive politely explaining that if the person doesn't spend its free time in front of its pc at home, then why the fuck should I?

That's disrespect for my time. Full stop.

No replies yet. Phew! :)

Every time you reply though, you perpetuate the contact, which to their twisted mind means that you are encouraging it. I had something very similar for several years from someone who actively stalked me until I got married, and I made things worse by telling them to fuck off - ignoring them would have been a much better option in retrospect.

back in the days when Rocket Mick used to wear a curly blonde wig hey.

oldmonkey wrote:

Every time you reply though, you perpetuate the contact, which to their twisted mind means that you are encouraging it. I had something very similar for several years from someone who actively stalked me until I got married, and I made things worse by telling them to fuck off - ignoring them would have been a much better option in retrospect.

Very true. I think I made my point very clearly in today's email so it's back to plan B now - might just start ignoring it with a passion

Ignore, filter as spam, and delete if an email from said person actually gets into your inbox folder. Perhaps you could tell your relatives to inform the psycho that your phone number is unlisted and shall remain so for a VERY long time, if the psycho calls again.

Replying to the psycho emails will only continue the madness. Good luck!

JUST SAY NO! I get these type of e-mails ALL the time from the JOBCENTRE. LEAVE ME ALONE!

It's a woman is it Maya? That makes you a fellow Gay Icon.

Boatraceface wrote: It's a woman is it Maya? That makes you a fellow Gay Icon.

We all KNOW it is a deported LIAM!

Another alternative: put the stalker's email address onto some spam mailing lists so that the stalker gets chain mails and further spam in exponential numbers!

Not that I've ever done that before....

Let's all email stalk Maya and give her a nervous breakdown,for a dafty. Ok blew that cover already.

Let's stalk Johnny

Well the trouble is, it's not really a stalker, it's supposed to be an old friend of mine :\ohwell:

NObabe wrote: Well the trouble is, it's not really a stalker, it's supposed to be an old friend of mine :\ohwell:

We have a term for people like you. It's called 'sack the lads'

Happens when SOME people get wed

Maya,You know this person obviously.so you should be the best judge of their character. If they are a fuckin tosser,fuck them off If not,don't lose yer mates,simple.

NObabe wrote: Well the trouble is, it's not really a stalker, it's supposed to be an old friend of mine :\ohwell:

well either block the person or have the emails come through in you junk mail folder.

NOOLigan wrote:

NObabe wrote: Well the trouble is, it's not really a stalker, it's supposed to be an old friend of mine :\ohwell:

well either block the person or have the emails come through in you junk mail folder.

We are beyond the mechanics now Ronald. we are now into human value and oddbods

Boatraceface wrote: Maya,You know this person obviously.so you should be the best judge of their character. If they are a fuckin tosser,fuck them off If not,don't lose yer mates,simple.

Sounds like Maya may be conflicted. She wants some space (ie no more daft emails), but she doesn't want to hurt this person's feelings... am I right?

Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind..

Shed Peel wrote:

Boatraceface wrote: Maya,You know this person obviously.so you should be the best judge of their character. If they are a fuckin tosser,fuck them off If not,don't lose yer mates,simple.

Sounds like Maya may be conflicted. She wants some space (ie no more daft emails), but she doesn't want to hurt this person's feelings... am I right?

Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind..

Fuck knows.Pardon my french. Do you actually look like that Emma Peel bird Emma?

Shed Peel wrote:

Sounds like Maya may be conflicted. She wants some space (ie no more daft emails), but she doesn't hurt this person's feelings... am I right?

Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind..

Precisely.

re: what Boaty said... It's definitely someone I know very well but I also expect that someone to know me too, to know what I like and what I don't like (we're talking friendship here, right?) and I'm certainly not fond of that kind of behaviour.

Boatraceface wrote:

Shed Peel wrote:

Boatraceface wrote: Maya,You know this person obviously.so you should be the best judge of their character. If they are a fuckin tosser,fuck them off If not,don't lose yer mates,simple.

Sounds like Maya may be conflicted. She wants some space (ie no more daft emails), but she doesn't want to hurt this person's feelings... am I right?

Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind..

Fuck knows.Pardon my french. Do you actually look like that Emma Peel bird Emma?

LOL -- no, I am not Diana Rigg's twin. But you're right... she is quite the looker in that photo!

Shed Peel wrote:

Boatraceface wrote:

Shed Peel wrote:

Boatraceface wrote: Maya,You know this person obviously.so you should be the best judge of their character. If they are a fuckin tosser,fuck them off If not,don't lose yer mates,simple.

Sounds like Maya may be conflicted. She wants some space (ie no more daft emails), but she doesn't want to hurt this person's feelings... am I right?

Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind..

Fuck knows.Pardon my french. Do you actually look like that Emma Peel bird Emma?

LOL -- no, I am not Diana Rigg's twin. But you're right... she is quite the looker in that photo!

My bet would be that you are a male in love with Emma.

NObabe wrote:

Shed Peel wrote:

Sounds like Maya may be conflicted. She wants some space (ie no more daft emails), but she doesn't hurt this person's feelings... am I right?

Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind..

Precisely.

re: what Boaty said... It's definitely someone I know very well but I also expect that someone to know me too, to know what I like and what I don't like (we're talking friendship here, right?) and I'm certainly not fond of that kind of behaviour.

Sounds like you just need to set some boundaries, if you still want to maintain the friendship. Just be firm in setting the boundaries and your friend, if he/she is really your friend, should respect your wishes.

If they don't respect your wishes, I think the friendship is over.

NOOLigan wrote:

Shed Peel wrote:

Boatraceface wrote:

Shed Peel wrote:

Boatraceface wrote: Maya,You know this person obviously.so you should be the best judge of their character. If they are a fuckin tosser,fuck them off If not,don't lose yer mates,simple.

Sounds like Maya may be conflicted. She wants some space (ie no more daft emails), but she doesn't want to hurt this person's feelings... am I right?

Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind..

Fuck knows.Pardon my french. Do you actually look like that Emma Peel bird Emma?

LOL -- no, I am not Diana Rigg's twin. But you're right... she is quite the looker in that photo!

My bet would be that you are a male in love with Emma.

That's quite a theory....

Shed Peel wrote:

NOOLigan wrote:

Shed Peel wrote:

Boatraceface wrote:

Shed Peel wrote:

Boatraceface wrote: Maya,You know this person obviously.so you should be the best judge of their character. If they are a fuckin tosser,fuck them off If not,don't lose yer mates,simple.

Sounds like Maya may be conflicted. She wants some space (ie no more daft emails), but she doesn't want to hurt this person's feelings... am I right?

Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind..

Fuck knows.Pardon my french. Do you actually look like that Emma Peel bird Emma?

LOL -- no, I am not Diana Rigg's twin. But you're right... she is quite the looker in that photo!

My bet would be that you are a male in love with Emma.

That's quite a theory....

At least I didn't say fat bald and middle aged.

NOOLigan wrote:

At least I didn't say fat bald and middle aged.

Leave Rocket out of this! :evil:

NObabe wrote:

NOOLigan wrote:

At least I didn't say fat bald and middle aged.

Leave Rocket out of this! :evil:

ah yes this thread is about you. i forgot.

*latest update

Got an email telling me it was me imagining things and asking if, by any chance, I'm having a problem, commonly called PMT

PMT is a medical name. It's common name is...

MAD COW DISEASE

NObabe wrote: *latest update

Got an email telling me it was me imagining things and asking if, by any chance, I'm having a problem, commonly called PMT

Psycho Mail Taker?

(sorry it really is way too early for me. I'll come up wit a better answer later.)

OK Maya. if that person is now starting to insult you, yes I read that as an insult it deffo is time to cease all contact.

jesus,why do i always spot a fight when its over :\ohwell:

banshee wrote: jesus,why do i always spot a fight when its over :\ohwell:

because you hate the sight of blood?

NObabe wrote: *latest update

Got an email telling me it was me imagining things and asking if, by any chance, I'm having a problem, commonly called PMT

I think you friend is

totally ignoring people is immature. have you tried HONESTY? and have you not mislead the person? just be straight up and not too emotional, to cool it now and that you feel hurt and want to be left alone now, and try not too mean without being misleading.

and after a plea for level headedness is ignored, try to be mature and take the high road, waste little time with them.

pumped full of drugs wrote: totally ignoring people is immature. have you tried HONESTY? and have you not mislead the person? just be straight up and not too emotional, to cool it now and that you feel hurt and want to be left alone now, and try not too mean without being misleading.

and after a plea for level headedness is ignored, try to be mature and take the high road, waste little time with them.

And if that fails might I suggest, some return tickets to Belgrade, 2 shovels, a baseball bat and a bag of quicklime.

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If you don't learn to speak up for yourself and take a stand when someone is making you uncomfortable or crossing boundaries then you'll be nothing more than a doormat for the rest of your life.

Telling somone "no" or "back off" does not make you a bad person - not standing up for yourself does.

My motto is "no means no...unless it means yes."

What does "Never Again" mean?

Shug Sludden wrote:

BIGINOIL wrote: What does "Never Again" mean?

Another classic play on words. Usually said after waking up next to a mongoose the next day.

Like the song says.... "dya ever go to bed with bo derek and wake up with bo didley"

In my case, never. But that's mainly cos I'm the sort to do a runner.

Shug Sludden wrote:

You say it's a bird though Maya

but... where? :confused3:

NObabe wrote: Someone I’ve known since I was 14 has become obsessed with me and it’s not even funny. I must admit that I just don’t have the guts to say piss off. Not even via email.

So how do YOU solve a problem like Maria? :(

Unless.. Maria is a Guy's name. To give it an end, Closure. If it's still being a problem. Can't you just write two words, one line. To the effect. New Life, no Time. Not interested! Don't write. Best Wishes. Fini.

To put it nice and mildly, when all else fails and said psycho e-mailer insults you and obviously does NOT get the hint, it's time for YOU to tell him/her to back off nicely. If that actually does fail, may I suggest the following:

Quote the last two lines of 'Your Silent Face.'

Trust me, I had to do that once. Never heard from the b*st*rd since.

14 K wrote:

NObabe wrote:

So how do YOU solve a problem like Maria?

Unless.. Maria is a Guy's name.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/maria/about/index.shtml

Nice try, chick but it was no more than a figure of speech :)

i take it this person is still alive then.

If it is a bird...can I get pictures from when you confront her, start getting worked up and angry, then start ripping each other clothes off and...

In all seriousness, this sounds like someone who won't get the hint. You ignore them, they persist. You try and tell them off nicely, they continue. You point to the shotgun on your wall and indicate that it's always loaded in case they come around, they think you're being cute.

My advice: maybe let law enforcement know about this, if it's something that really could develop into more than just an annoyance. I would hope the police take stalking seriously where you are.

Taboo # 7 wrote: If it is a bird...can I get pictures from when you confront her, start getting worked up and angry, then start ripping each other clothes off and...

In all seriousness, this sounds like someone who won't get the hint. You ignore them, they persist. You try and tell them off nicely, they continue. You point to the shotgun on your wall and indicate that it's always loaded in case they come around, they think you're being cute.

My advice: maybe let law enforcement know about this, if it's something that really could develop into more than just an annoyance. I would hope the police take stalking seriously where you are.

Now that's a more sensible word of advice than the YSF lines bit.

Oh, the strange girl. F*ck, what's her name again? wrote:

Taboo # 7 wrote: If it is a bird...can I get pictures from when you confront her, start getting worked up and angry, then start ripping each other clothes off and...

In all seriousness, this sounds like someone who won't get the hint. You ignore them, they persist. You try and tell them off nicely, they continue. You point to the shotgun on your wall and indicate that it's always loaded in case they come around, they think you're being cute.

My advice: maybe let law enforcement know about this, if it's something that really could develop into more than just an annoyance. I would hope the police take stalking seriously where you are.

Now that's a more sensible word of advice than the YSF lines bit.

I know soembody who isn't going to get my home email address.

NObabe wrote:

http://www.bbc.co.uk/maria/about/index.shtml Nice try, chick but it was no more than a figure of speech :)

Missed that completely. Didn't catch or Trainspot the Salzburg - to Bavaria part. at all. The Good Luck w/ it stands M.

Any news on this front or has Maria gone to the hills?

Shed Peel wrote: Any news on this front or has Maria gone to the hills?

All alright so far, cheers for asking :) Some really clever advice here, thank you all so much A problem shared is a problem solved

NObabe wrote:

Shed Peel wrote: Any news on this front or has Maria gone to the hills?

All alright so far, cheers for asking :) Some really clever advice here, thank you all so much A problem shared is a problem solved

Well, if that's the case...there's this guy with a really bad accent and moustache and he always seems to be trying to get me to come to his hotel room. I foolish respond, and whenever I get there he plies me with "shampanyov" and tries to take advantage of me. What's a boy to do?

:p

Taboo # 7 wrote:

NObabe wrote:

Shed Peel wrote: Any news on this front or has Maria gone to the hills?

All alright so far, cheers for asking :) Some really clever advice here, thank you all so much A problem shared is a problem solved

Well, if that's the case...there's this guy with a really bad accent and moustache and he always seems to be trying to get me to come to his hotel room.

Clayhead!!???

Taboo # 7 wrote:

NObabe wrote:

Shed Peel wrote: Any news on this front or has Maria gone to the hills?

All alright so far, cheers for asking :) Some really clever advice here, thank you all so much A problem shared is a problem solved

Well, if that's the case...there's this guy with a really bad accent and moustache and he always seems to be trying to get me to come to his hotel room. I foolish respond, and whenever I get there he plies me with "shampanyov" and tries to take advantage of me. What's a boy to do?

:p

Heavens, do not under any circumstances leave a glove behind.

Taboo # 7 wrote:

NObabe wrote:

Shed Peel wrote: Any news on this front or has Maria gone to the hills?

All alright so far, cheers for asking :) Some really clever advice here, thank you all so much A problem shared is a problem solved

Well, if that's the case...there's this guy with a really bad accent and moustache and he always seems to be trying to get me to come to his hotel room. I foolish respond, and whenever I get there he plies me with "shampanyov" and tries to take advantage of me. What's a boy to do?

:p

Think of sheep instead.

They are much safer.