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Okie i have to ask a serious question..
What do you say to someone you really love...like i know you say you love them...but im lost for words? could you guys/girls give me some adivce? being older and all im not so great with words..i would really apperciate this...
Also..how do you deal/dealed with assholes at your schools? I alreay beat up two but they never stop...what can i do?
This is where we talk about New Order mate, not you getting your first pube.
There is an off-topic forum, for 
sake, USE IT.
Originally posted by Spike
What can you do ?
a) start posting your off-topic threads in the off-topic forum, rather than on this forum b) i'll tell you over on the off-topic forum
go under forums and to 'general chat.' that's where you'll find all the really intellectual discussions on this site.
Originally posted by Spike theres a off topic fourm???
See the menu bar, where it says "Forum". Mouseover that and it will open a new menu. Scroll down to "Forums" and open that - there's a whole world you've been missing out on !
Originally posted by Spike
First, don't pronounce the words the way you spell them. She won't understand you.
Second, you're not lost for words..."I love you." It's that simple. That's what she wants to hear. She'll probably love you more for being awkward with words than if you were real smoothe about it. The awkwardness shows sincerity; someone who's smoothe may have the words down, but you can't tell if they're sincere. Just find a romantic moment-- it doesn't have to be anything fancy, just a romantic moment between the two of you, watching the sunset, or something simple but beautiful like that, one she'll remember-- and say what's in your heart. You'll figure it out.
Third, you can never, ever forget every little detail about that moment. Ever. What she wore, where you were, what song was playing, what the night was like-- everything. She will remember. If you don't, it will cost you. Dearly.
When it comes to womens, do not be afraid. It's better to regret what you did or said than to regret what you did not say or did. Never be afraid to ask anyone out. You will never know unless you try.
about the assholes who pick on you, the best thing to do is to tell a teacher
. if that dont work, find out where they live and throw eggs at their houses and cars. im not talking like one or two eggs, throw at least a dozen at one time. do it 2-3 times a week for a month, eventually they'll have to sandblast the shit off. at least you'd get the satisfaction knowing what you did and they'll never know. or call their house and make sure a parent picks up (please call from a payphone) and say " (insert name) dude, where the fuck are my drugs, the (local gang) is all pissed and want their fucking cash as well, you better come up with the ectasy, acid, and pot, or your going to fucking die". that'll freak their parents out and completly fuck up the lives (hopefully) of the person you hate :)
i didnt really have luck with girls in high school, but i guess i learned a few things as i got older, and someone said it earlier, and it is true that the awkwardness of saying i love you is better than being all smooth. the first time i told my girlfreind i loved her went like this " i think i love you but if you dont love me then thats ok cause i dont love you either". it worked!
just pour brake fluid all over the paint job on their car...
that'll piss them off as well!!!
There you go again with the bad vibes. Escalation of violence and shit. Try not being a pussy, stand your ground. Remember, however, you can be expelled from school for fighting. Best avoid them until they found a new person to pick on. Stay away from them without running like a coward.
But when they least expect it, place a dead squirrel in their glove box. Do this during a hot summer. Other acts of vandalism will get you in trouble or cause them to respond in kind. Believe me, I have been a victim of this. Stick with subtle shit, like the squirel.
twist<--37 years old and still cannot park his car on the street in front of his childhood home without some 37 year old asshole tossing an egg on it
Originally posted by KnownPleasures > Originally posted by Spike> theres a off topic fourm???
See the menu bar, where it says "Forum". Mouseover that and it will open a new menu. Scroll down to "Forums" and open that - there's a whole world you've been missing out on !
Mouseover? what a great word! cheers Tim, (sounds a bit like a remix of a Joy Div song though....)
Originally posted by Tristan Jayol Let the babes come to you; wait now that I think of it, none of 'em have come my way...
Well, unless you're a babe-magnet, the girls are going to avoid you like you've already got herpes.
There is a magic potion which you can pick any chick you want, my son.
It is called tequila. 
Originally posted by Drunken Monkey just pour brake fluid all over the paint job on their car...that'll piss them off as well!!!
Sugar in the gas tank will really get their attention.....
Placing tacks underneath tires is also a great way to get revenge.
word to the wise. if a girl likes you at that age, she'll probably either ignore you or act very aloof. it's called fear. trust me...i know. if you like her, just tell her. point blank. she'll appreciate the honesty. unless you're a total dork, of course. but even then it's usually flattering, even though a girl would never admit it!
Originally posted by twist There you go again with the bad vibes. Escalation of violence and shit. Try not being a pussy, stand your ground. Remember, however, you can be expelled from school for fighting. Best avoid them until they found a new person to pick on. Stay away from them without running like a coward. But when they least expect it, place a dead squirrel in their glove box. Do this during a hot summer. Other acts of vandalism will get you in trouble or cause them to respond in kind. Believe me, I have been a victim of this. Stick with subtle shit, like the squirel.twist<--37 years old and still cannot park his car on the street in front of his childhood home without some 37 year old asshole tossing an egg on it
I have to agree with Twist...mostly.
My uncle was over 6' when he was your age, and he ALWAYS got picked on. I would guess that guys with low self-esteem are using you to raise their self-esteem. If they can beat up a big guy like you, then they must not be as low as they feel. That kind of stuff. They probably get punched around at home, or girls won't talk to them, or something, so they're doing what they can to cope, even if it's an inappropriate coping mechanism like bullying.
Forget retaliation. It will only bring trouble. You can get expelled, or even arrested. Those kind of negative marks can follow you around for the rest of your life. Retaliation can escalate to the point where things are totally out of control, and can bring consequences that nobody foresaw or intended. Leave the retaliation alone.
BUT: Stand up to bullies; they're cowards, and thrive on victims who are afraid of them. Stand up to a bully, and make it clear that you will kick the living shit out of him IF YOU HAVE TO. That's the key. You will defend yourself, and he will pay the price, if he doesn't back down. Walk away from a fight if you can. Let him walk away from a fight if he wants to. But if he won't let you walk away, kick the living shit out of him. Well, at least until he backs down-- you don't want to actually kill somebody, or put him in the hospital. The courts would tend to frown on anything that goes beyond self-defense.
Listen, you're only 15. In 2 or 3 years, you'll graduate, and you will probably never se these assholes again. You'll all go to college, or enlist in the military, or move to another neighborhood, or something. You'll never see them again. At your age, 2 or 3 years can seem like forever, but trust me, it's not. It goes by very, very quickly. You will soon be at a point in your life where you will never see these assholes again.
The funny thing is, in 20 years, none of this will matter. Life will have dealt with the assholes. Some will be divorced, some will be bankrupt, some will be in jail, some will be dead. It happens. 20 years from now, you'll realize how utterly unimportant these assholes have been in your life. So don't spend too much time worrying about them now. And don't go looking for trouble now. Life can bring enough trouble on its own, thank you very much, without you going looking for it. Stay away from retaliation, but stand up to bullies if you have to.
And go looking for the good things in life. You know what I mean. If you love her, tell her.
Okay, the last time I was "in love" or just plain lust was this past summer, when I was fighting off an attraction to a coworker of mine who was incredibly hot and seemed not to mind talking to me (or at least didn't automatically call the cops anytime I approached her). This girl was stunningly beautiful(well, I guess she still is) and I was intimidated by that. I thought "she must have a million guys asking her out every week" and I was just not confident enough to make any moves.
Well, long story short, I finally decided that maybe I might as well ask, as the least she could do was say no. Almost as soon as I resolved to do so, I learned from her that she'd be quitting the store in August. I made sure to come by the store on her last night (she had told me this as well), and...I choked, I couldn't do it. I couldn't get the words out of my mouth. And I haven't seen her since (at least not long enough to say "Would you like to go out sometime?"). I've been beating myself up about it since summer, because I could have at least found out if there was a mutual thing going on or if I was totally misreading her. I'm just now getting to the point where I'm starting to look for girls other than her for potential dating.
Suffice it to say, you should let the girl know how you feel. Now if I could only follow my own advice, I'd be less high-strung and prone to crying fits in the shower (only kidding about the crying...stole that from David Cross on "Arrested Development" :D )
That's right, do not be a pussy, ASK HER OUT! The worst thing that could happen is a restraining order. Or a house full of children, like mine.
Is there a happy ending to any of this enlightening thread? Did Spike get the girl? Did he kill the baddies? Has he learned to spell along the way? Do I care?
