Where did things go wrong?

I've been thinking about this quite a bit lately. I had a promising future as a session musiscian but (I think) f24ked it all up via teenage rebellion. I wasn't shooting for the stars but thought I'd give it a shot anyway. Acid, pot, alcohol , X and some coke was the prerequisite for all of this as I think It might be for most youths. I'm not quite remorseful for any of this but still I'm trying to figure out "What went wrong". Or is it all going "just as expected". Anyway, how did you folk end up in the profession you're currently in? I'm just a bartendender and free as a bird. That, I like. I just thought I would be in someting a little more stable at this point. Where did things go wrong/right?

What's stopping you picking up where you left off?

ADD.

Well, I ended up my way due to rebellion. I wanted to be a disc jockey once (radio, mind you), and then somehow I turned my 'casual' love of computers/electronics into a weird obsession. Then I toned the obsession back down to "voracious interest" and took up photography, then drawing, then back to writing. Was on the up and up in being a classy violinist, and could have done something with that but decided - I've not had enough fun yet.

Cue 8 years of fun, plus a few bouts in and out of university with no degree besides an experience degree.

So now I've had a lot of fun, and a lot of not fun, and I've got memories and pictures to remind me of it all. Which is good, because whatever I gave up in all my questing for experience helps drive the writing and educating I'm doing now.

I don't have a clue as to what I want to do with my life, and being at my mid-twenties I suppose I've got a lot of time left on that frontier, and mainly my focus at the moment is to pay some bills, have some laughs and keep my knowledge of things in working order so I don't go back to school stupid.

I don't think things go wrong, per se, they just get delayed and most things these days are reversible. There's just less stigma attached to going back to paths that were once deigned to be "youth only", i.e. college, entry level positions, starting over completely, being indecisive, etc.

i don't know if things ever go wrong or right. i do believe that things happen for a purpose, and that we are meant to learn and grow from those experiences. up until 1993 i did not have a worry in the world. i was doing my second degree, and then i got sick. i mean really sick. i spent a month in hospital with blood poisoning of which i came very close to dying. it took me a very long time to recover from this. well to put it bluntly i am a different person. i no longer take certain things quite so serious ie my job. it is just something that gives me a decent income.

i somehow stumbled into my current career. someone suggested i take the public servant test, and i made it.

having said that there is currently a lot of change in my life. who knows i may be in a different job very soon. i may even consider going back and doing some further study, when i have the need and the energy.

i may even go back and finally complete my grad dip in education, or something else.

My emouchere is gone via jaw surgery interrupted. (I was primarily a ttumpet studuent). I also play bass/double bass, viola, all brass instruments, drums ( I rock!) & all percussion, some guitar. eh so it goes. I guess working in a record store would suffice. As of now, I make about $20 an hour. Record store clecks are about 9 an hour.

I am only just getting where I want to be and I'm 35 next. It took a while but am studying for my finals in a Law and Accountancy degree at the moment and have very fortunately already got a post as a trainee Business Studies and Law teacher commencing in September. My main point is that it is never too late to change direction if you have the determination and support (a big help). You just have to have a lot of self belief and you can go a long way. If I can do it with a mortgage, husband and two young boys then the world is your oyster (as Frankie would say!!)

Good Luck

WIYO's still th best thing they did too.

I blame New Order for my utter failure in music. I never worked out you can only do things on your own terms if you have Rob and Tony behind you...well until I seen NO on a major and beheld the truth.

That and not being a terribly accomplished schmoozer.

Still, I keep at it even if it does only earn pocket money these days. And even tho I am FAR too old to be thinking of anything but a few gigs here and there....I must admit, I'd still take a plum engineering job if it were offered. New Order badly need a front of house engineer who isn't deaf, maybe the gig for me.

When i was 18, 1984, I worked extra at a computer comapny. I was there to help them with paperwork.

6 months later, I started to help them install computer programs. The sent me to IBM for some course's in IBM PC/G.

The also made me a IBM authorize techician.

Been in this business for 20 years now. 14 as my own.

They went wrong when you started asking "Where did it all go wrong?" Every day of your life, you should be trying accomplishing some small victory towards being the person you want to be. It doesn't have to be much, but you won't go to bed feeling like a failure as long as you've done something towards that end.

House music all night long :\ohwell:

I don't think they did go wrong, to be honest. I'm the happiest I have ever been in my life, earning the most money I've ever earned, settled down with family, house, as many musical bits and pieces as I could lay my hands on, I've got some good mates and I've got most of my health. I'll happily settle for that. There's nothing I regret.

Barney Army wrote: House music all night long :\ohwell:

yes! that's it! oh, but I'm still doing that....

I chose to go into my profession (office type) after trying it out over a number of summers and liking it. For me, it beats going down the stereotypical "career" path, which I've done over and over again throughout my education. I made a career out of that - worked every hour God sends, didn't do any of the usual teenage rebellion stuff - and now I regret it really bitterly. That's where it went wrong for me, I think. It's only now that I'm out of all that and I've got a permanent job that things are really starting to go right.

It all went wrong when i didn't carry on the backpacking life i had dipped my toe into in the 90s.I ended up back in my town and bought a house.