[magenta]cozmonite61[/magenta] wrote:
How sad. Sometimes I wish that parents understand that their kids do struggle in high school (and college) and that failure is actually a part of a learning process. I feel sorry for the kid and his family.
This makes sense in theory, but in actuality, no one would follow it. If parents have in mind a certain future for their kids, they'll push them to achieve it. Usually, failure isn't included in that.
Back when I was in high school - I also went to high school in PA but in the city, not the suburbs - my mother had this idea that I'd go to an Ivy League school on full scholarship. So, she just kept pushing for it. I had to stay valedictorian, I had to have high SAT and SAT 2 scores, I had to do several afterschool activities and do them all well. And when I didn't go to an Ivy League school for college, she seemed to resent me for it. But, after a while, the stress and the pressure built up. I never shot anyone, but once, after the teacher who oversaw the school newspaper yelled at me because of a task that wasn't done (I was not informed of it), I flipped out and threw a stack of papers at her. I was lucky I was not suspended.
Is pressure necessary? If someone if failing, why aren't the teachers or someone helping them? Rather than punishing a student, shouldn't the school try to help the student get the knowledge of the material and pass? When my sister got a D+ or a C- in English one year, my mother made me tutor her and proof her papers until she passed. Why didn't the school offer any help if her grades were struggling? I don't know the situation of this kid, but didn't his high school at least offer tutoring?