Wish me good luck! — Forum Archive

31 Jan 2007, 10:39

I hate to bring my personal problems on here, but well..

Wish me good luck, my wife is moving out tonight, we'll be officially apart starting tomorrow.

Moderators were aware of this because I was unable to do many of my duties on here, for a good reason...

This has been going on since the beginning of October, and when I was saying 2006 was the worst year of my life, you now know why. I would like to thank all those who managed to make me think about something else while I was on vacation in England, let's say I needed a break at that point, my wife and I decided to try one last time to make it work and we came to a conclusion at the beginning of January it was impossible while living together.

So, it will be rough times, but I'll survive. So don't worry if I'm not here as much as I used to, I have my reasons.

Cheers.

31 Jan 2007, 10:46

erm...good luck there Nicos...

been there..done that...but actually, the former Mrs. White and I started getting along MUCH better after we were divorced...at one point we were even thinking about getting married again...then we went...erm...maybe not...

but, everyone here knows that I am a bit of a flake....soooo

31 Jan 2007, 10:51

Bloody HELL NIC.Sorry to hear this and indeed GOOD LUCK.As one who has a catalogue of failed marriages and relationships i can't offer much help.But remember that you can STILL have a great LIFE married or not.I can only guess at the pain you are going through and as long as you don't do it MY WAY you should be fine.I lost YEARS drinking away my LIFE instead of just LIVING.Take care and i am sure we all wish you well. Rocket Mick

31 Jan 2007, 11:04

good luck then Nic. a tough time for you, I know.

31 Jan 2007, 11:05

Good luck, Spotnick and stay strong.

If it's any consolation, I'm having a mole removed from my leg on Friday morning cause it got slightly bigger and darker and it's got a dodgy looking shade around. Not afraid of the operation itself but it's the possibility of it being a skin cancer that scares the shit out of me.

31 Jan 2007, 11:27

I'm so sorry Nic. I know I've spoken to you already, but the best you can do is stay positive. I've never been married, but I've ended a three-year relationship. It's hard, but it's harder if you wallow, ya know? I wish you the best, man.

31 Jan 2007, 11:28

you will survive,

31 Jan 2007, 11:35

I don't know what to say other than good luck and stay strong. you will see the other side of the tunnel (eventually).

31 Jan 2007, 11:47

You know Nic,when i split up with a long term girlfriend years ago,a mate said something to me i didn't understand,but i learnt what he meant. Tomorrows a new day,and it'll probably be better than today.

And you know,he was right. Good luck fella.

31 Jan 2007, 11:58

Good luck to you Nicos.

31 Jan 2007, 12:23

Wondered where you went. Sorry to hear the news.....but hey, now you can be the wingman for Comrade.....just think of all those youngin's just waiting to be plucked:D

31 Jan 2007, 12:52

Not much anyone can say really, although I'm sure we've all been through similar.

You'll have days when you're glad to be single, but other days when it feels like the whole world's caving in on you.

Hardest thing I initially found when I split with my wife was waking up on the weekend and not having anyone else there to talk to. There's no short-term fixes, you just have to take every day as it comes.

Chin up!

31 Jan 2007, 12:53

Having a dishwasher helps.

31 Jan 2007, 12:59

His Holiness, The Pope wrote: Having a dishwasher helps.

ironing's a twat too. :ignore:

31 Jan 2007, 13:19

J.A.K wrote:

His Holiness, The Pope wrote: Having a dishwasher helps.

ironing's a twat too.

Do you have an automatic iron? :scratch:

31 Jan 2007, 13:54

J.A.K wrote:

His Holiness, The Pope wrote: Having a dishwasher helps.

ironing's a twat too.

oi! They might have been his Tasks or they fell under the 'shared Duties.

Time goes people change. Hopefully got the good memeories of times past. Luck, strength and working ease. Future can always be bright. Even if obviously uncertain.

31 Jan 2007, 13:59

14 K wrote:

J.A.K wrote:

His Holiness, The Pope wrote: Having a dishwasher helps.

ironing's a twat too.

oi! They might have been his Tasks or they fell under the 'shared Duties.

Time goes people change. Hopefully got the good memeories of times past. Luck, strength and working ease. Future can always be bright. Even if obviously uncertain.

fuck. the weekly shopping is even worse. that trolley pushing lark is a right pain in the arse. then there's the hoovering and changing the bed linen...:shudder:

(BTW footy fans): live footy. Tottenham are shit tonight. paralysed with fear.

31 Jan 2007, 14:25

Sorry to hear this Nic.Good luck

31 Jan 2007, 14:38

I'll wish you both luck, and hope that you will be able to work things out now that you have some space.

31 Jan 2007, 14:51

sorry about that...

but keep in mind that always an end brings a new beginnig..so there will be great things waiting for you!!

so...walk on!!

31 Jan 2007, 15:01

Sorry to hear that, All the best Nicos, good luck Dude

31 Jan 2007, 15:13

Sorry about that Nicholas... I wish you luck and hope things turn up good for you.

31 Jan 2007, 15:45

Keep your spirtis up! I can only imagine how difficult it is for you. Please remain loyal to your yourself and your personal beliefs on love. You have to believe that there is someone for you and the slate needs to be clean for the day you meet her.

31 Jan 2007, 16:22

Sorry to hear that it is ending badly, but at least you'll always have the mammaries...memories :nervous:

In all seriousness, you might not believe it now but times will get better. Hopefully sooner than later, but eventually. :nod:

Keep on the sunny side

31 Jan 2007, 16:39

Spotnick wrote: my wife and I decided to try one last time to make it work and we came to a conclusion at the beginning of January it was impossible while living together.

Can nobody read?

They haven't "ended," it's not "over," they're not "moving on." They're trying to work things out.

Give them the chance to do that, people...

31 Jan 2007, 17:00

Good luck Nic..God knows relationships are so difficult. I've been in your position sometimes down the years,splitting and getting back together.It's never perfect,and terrible when tension starts getting to you. Sometimes I still want out,though my situation is different to yours.

You have a right to some happiness,and I hope you find it with or without a partner.. Take your time and try to be strong about it,if you can.

31 Jan 2007, 17:35

Good luck to you Nick!

31 Jan 2007, 19:18

Comrade Shampanyov wrote:

Spotnick wrote: my wife and I decided to try one last time to make it work and we came to a conclusion at the beginning of January it was impossible while living together.

Can nobody read?

They haven't "ended," it's not "over," they're not "moving on." They're trying to work things out.

Give them the chance to do that, people...

So a good excuse to get in a fling before getting back together?

31 Jan 2007, 19:20

EdelBrock wrote:

Comrade Shampanyov wrote:

Spotnick wrote: my wife and I decided to try one last time to make it work and we came to a conclusion at the beginning of January it was impossible while living together.

Can nobody read?

They haven't "ended," it's not "over," they're not "moving on." They're trying to work things out.

Give them the chance to do that, people...

So a good excuse to get in a fling before getting back together?

That wouldn't be very conducive to working things out, or having a stable relationship afterwards, in my opinion.

31 Jan 2007, 20:33

Comrade Shampanyov wrote:

Spotnick wrote: my wife and I decided to try one last time to make it work and we came to a conclusion at the beginning of January it was impossible while living together.

Can nobody read?

They haven't "ended," it's not "over," they're not "moving on." They're trying to work things out.

Give them the chance to do that, people...

Maybe I was lost in translation, we did try for the last 3 months to fix it, it didn't work, we're moving apart and see how it goes from there... worst case scenario, we'll be friends until one of us find somebody else.

Anyways, that is very depressing, I helped her to move tonight, I just got back.

And Al, yes, I know it will be the hardest part... talking to myself is not my usual fun... but it's very hard because in the 5.5 years we spent together, we've never been apart more than 24 hours... except for the recent trip to England (and hers to France)... which was considered as a break.

Anyways, not much I can do but wait until time does its job.

31 Jan 2007, 20:54

Spotnick wrote:

Comrade Shampanyov wrote:

Spotnick wrote: my wife and I decided to try one last time to make it work and we came to a conclusion at the beginning of January it was impossible while living together.

Can nobody read?

They haven't "ended," it's not "over," they're not "moving on." They're trying to work things out.

Give them the chance to do that, people...

Maybe I was lost in translation, we did try for the last 3 months to fix it, it didn't work, we're moving apart and see how it goes from there... worst case scenario, we'll be friends until one of us find somebody else.

Anyways, that is very depressing, I helped her to move tonight, I just got back.

And Al, yes, I know it will be the hardest part... talking to myself is not my usual fun... but it's very hard because in the 5.5 years we spent together, we've never been apart more than 24 hours... except for the recent trip to England (and hers to France)... which was considered as a break.

Anyways, not much I can do but wait until time does its job.

I thought I was Lost in Translation. :shrug:

Ah well, my best wishes for the both of you anyway. Sometimes time apart helps to bring clarity...

31 Jan 2007, 23:30

Nic, you're in the very best company.

Mrs Big and I are going to court in the near future.

We've been apart for a while so fairly used to it now. As someone just said, the separation has seen us get along much better.

Chin up mon brave

31 Jan 2007, 23:45

BIGINOIL wrote: Nic, you're in the very best company.

Mrs Big and I are going to court in the near future.

You've been fingered for the bank job?!

Who squealed?? :eek3:

31 Jan 2007, 23:47

Probably more like saying "ya" way to much I figure......

1 Feb 2007, 03:19

Good Luck Sweetie, Hope that you can remain good friends if nothing more; It's hard work but well worth the effort in my experience. Hugs

1 Feb 2007, 04:51

Good luck Nic, it's awful when a long term relationship breaks up but you are doing the right thing by not plodding on. The separation could mean you realise you are meant to be together. If not, it will be for the best and hopefully you can remain friends.

On a brighter note, you'll be able to starfish in bed!

:)

2 Feb 2007, 11:28

Sorry to hear that Nic, good luck in whatever the future may hold for you.

2 Feb 2007, 14:39

If New Order announce tour dates this year I'll be in the same boat Nicos.

You didnae think I was gonna be kind and understanding did ye? ;)

Hope everything works out for you whatever happens amigo

2 Feb 2007, 15:13

Boatraceface wrote: Good luck Nic..God knows relationships are so difficult. I've been in your position sometimes down the years,splitting and getting back together.It's never perfect,and terrible when tension starts getting to you. Sometimes I still want out,though my situation is different to yours.

You have a right to some happiness,and I hope you find it with or without a partner.. Take your time and try to be strong about it,if you can.

You know summat,brf that is the first "normal" reply to a post i have ever seen,usually u take the piss out of everything!

:nuts:

2 Feb 2007, 15:17

Anyroad spotnick,there does come a time when,unfortunately,things ,mmust come to an end,i've been through it a few times with lady :nuts: ,but, she always comes back for more!,dont know why,must be my persona!

Keep yer chin up me old mucker!

regards

:nuts:

2 Feb 2007, 16:14

wrote:

Boatraceface wrote: Good luck Nic..God knows relationships are so difficult. I've been in your position sometimes down the years,splitting and getting back together.It's never perfect,and terrible when tension starts getting to you. Sometimes I still want out,though my situation is different to yours.

You have a right to some happiness,and I hope you find it with or without a partner.. Take your time and try to be strong about it,if you can.

You know summat,brf that is the first "normal" reply to a post i have ever seen,usually u take the piss out of everything!

Harsh to say the least! Like when? It's better to take the piss and have a laff about stuff,innit? I'm not the only one who carries on, on here,and it's all good.

But come on, I do have manners,and I know as well as the next man,when someone is having a rough time of it...

All the best Nic,hope you doin alright...

2 Feb 2007, 17:06

Hiya Nic,I'm sorry to hear of that mate,you certainly kept a brave face in London. Things will feel shit for now,what you need is another trip. I know that 3 weeks after the wife moved out,I fcuked off to New York on my own.Not only was it the best holiday I've ever been on,I came back feeling like the Dog's Bollocks.I got my self-esteem back. Take care mate.

3 Feb 2007, 06:58

Although it's hard - it's definitely better to get out than live under a pretence, like others I'm speaking from recent personal experience.

In a few months you will hopefully be able to look back and realise that you've done the right thing.

Look after yourself, that's the main thing.

3 Feb 2007, 14:23

I certainly hope so... because right not it's my first week-end completely alone in 6 years, and it's really not evident.

But I don't feel like going out at all, so better do it this way.

Cheers.

3 Feb 2007, 14:30

Take Care Nic; I admire your honesty. And you know probably, it takes an amount of love for someone, to let them go, before things go .............really sour. I wish you well. x :)