How to fight infatuation? A friend of mine said he was infatuated with a person at his work and he said he didn't need all that mess in his life (he's married, got kids, so does that person). They just hired that person. I didn't know what to tell him. I advised to change the job or get over it. Right?
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It depends if she feels the same, then it's dangerous territory. I don't think I'd do anything drastic like changing my job though.
Yes if you find that you can't get over something, your best advise is simply to get over it.
However, if that doesn't work I would advise the following:
- Wallow in it on your own
- Go on and on about it to your mates
- Drink more beer than normal
- Stop eating
- Try to entertain other thoughts in order to displace the infatuation from your mind.
- Try to rationalise your thoughts in order to see how unrealistic they may be
- Accept that unrequited infatuation is essentially the same process as grieving for someone who has died. Accepting that you are as likely to 'get over' the loss of a lover as you are likely to stop feeling sad about, say, the death of a relative is an important step in accepting the loss and moving on.
- Put on loads of weight
- Kill yourself
Hope this helps 
I'd advise him to get better friends who don't casually disclose personal details on a trivial little website like this.
Ooh I forgot one:
- Seek advice from a disparate bunch of alcoholics, misfits and insomniacs, half of whom probably have it in for you anyway
|| | ||| 6217|| 8 || 3 wrote: How to fight infatuation? A friend of mine said he was infatuated with a person at his work and he said he didn't need all that mess in his life (he's married, got kids, so does that person). They just hired that person. I didn't know what to tell him. I advised to change the job or get over it. Right?
Not the only gay in the village?
Jemsa Goodun wrote: Ooh I forgot one:
- Seek advice from a disparate bunch of alcoholics, misfits and insomniacs, half of whom probably have it in for you anyway
The NHS then.
A furious Power wank,daily in works toilets could help. Surpresses the urge to pummel the unpummelable/unatainable. Coarse remedy,but effective for half an hour or so..Tell him to make sure his town halls are empty at all times in her prescence.Damage limitation.
Anything else I can help with,just ask.
Alternatively,tell him to get it out of his system.Bust a move on her,give her an Abe Lincoln and move on
Boatraceface wrote: Tell him to make sure his town halls are emptied at all times in her prescence.
Comrade Shampanyov wrote:
Boatraceface wrote: Tell him to make sure his town halls are emptied at all times in her prescence.
That should read empty in her presence,not emptied.My mistake
Boatraceface wrote:
Comrade Shampanyov wrote:
Boatraceface wrote: Tell him to make sure his town halls are emptied at all times in her prescence.
That should read empty in her presence,not emptied. My mistake
Not really.
For I, sir, am a cad and a bounder. 
Boatraceface wrote: A furious Power wank,daily in works toilets could help. Surpresses the urge to pummel the unpummelable/unatainable. Coarse remedy,but effective for half an hour or so..Tell him to make sure his town halls are empty at all times in her prescence.Damage limitation.
Anything else I can help with,just ask.
Alternatively,tell him to get it out of his system.Bust a move on her,give her an Abe Lincoln and move on
i think brf's recomendation would work, certainly bring an end to the situation one way or another....
Comrade Shampanyov wrote:
Boatraceface wrote:
Comrade Shampanyov wrote:
Boatraceface wrote: Tell him to make sure his town halls are emptied at all times in her prescence.
That should read empty in her presence,not emptied. My mistake
Not really.
For I, sir, am a cad and a bounder.
You had me thinking I really did say "EMPTIED" there..but it was you editing after all,was'nt it?
You Sir are a fucking Cad and a Bounder...and a cheeky Sheister Twatmonkface!!!
Well he said he tried to entertain other thoughts in order to displace the infatuation from his mind and didn't even care for that person. But it lasted only 3 hours, then he couldn't manage himself anymore to keep a proper behaviour.
I told him to find a new girl (oops, it's even worse!) or keep intensively focusing on other things.
Three hours is an impressive start. He might manage four tomorrow, five the next day...
Involving someone else in your problems is never a nice idea. You don't want to be taking your baggage from one relationship into another one. It's not fair either.
|| | ||| 6217|| 8 || 3 wrote: But it lasted only 3 hours, then he couldn't manage himself anymore to keep a proper behaviour.
How did his improper behaviour manifest itself?
James Thomas wrote:
|| | ||| 6217|| 8 || 3 wrote: But it lasted only 3 hours, then he couldn't manage himself anymore to keep a proper behaviour.
How did his improper behaviour manifest itself?
Possibly she showed him her new purchase of the iTit?
Boatraceface wrote: a cheeky Sheister Twatmonkface!!!
Thanks for the laugh first thing in the morning!
Yes, it's true, he didn't listen to my advice and eventually came to a bitter end to realize that other person doesn't give a damn about him.
Reverend Big wrote: Yes if you find that you can't get over something, your best advise is simply to get over it.
However, if that doesn't work I would advise the following:
- Wallow in it on your own
- Go on and on about it to your mates
- Drink more beer than normal
- Stop eating
- Try to entertain other thoughts in order to displace the infatuation from your mind.
- Try to rationalise your thoughts in order to see how unrealistic they may be
- Accept that unrequited infatuation is essentially the same process as grieving for someone who has died. Accepting that you are as likely to 'get over' the loss of a lover as you are likely to stop feeling sad about, say, the death of a relative is an important step in accepting the loss and moving on.
- Put on loads of weight
- Kill yourself
Hope this helps
You missed
- Have a wank
he pulled out his cock to have a wank over her tits...
she kicked him in the nads...
it was great...
I seen it on youtube
Snorrimon wrote: I want a T-shirt with that on as a slogan...
Snorri xxx
what , this?
bastard bus driver intolerant since 1993
me too!
Ally wrote:
Jemsa Goodun wrote: Ooh I forgot one:
- Seek advice from a disparate bunch of alcoholics, misfits and insomniacs, half of whom probably have it in for you anyway
The NHS then.
Hey you!.i work for the NHS,
wait,
that'll be about right then..
Snorrimon wrote: I want a T-shirt with that on as a slogan...
Snorri xxx
I could blow a load all over a shirt for you...
will that suffice?
Snorrimon wrote: Sod the shirt... Just aim at the face...
Snorri xxx
He'll miss,
he's got squinty eyes..
Gazman wrote:
Snorrimon wrote: Sod the shirt... Just aim at the face...
Snorri xxx
He'll miss,
he's got squinty eyes..
turning japanese!
How come every thread on this site has ended up in a discussion about onanism?
If you want to talk about that, go away and do it on your own.
Chris Nash wrote:
JPS wrote: chris, you look hot in yr avatar.
Don't start wanking over it... :evil:
wanking ain't allowed at work.. you sure look better than that boyish looking skinny model..
JPS wrote: wanking ain't allowed at work..
Do they actually have a policy, or did they pull you aside to have a talk with you?
Comrade Shampanyov wrote:
JPS wrote: wanking ain't allowed at work..
Do they actually have a policy, or did they pull you aside to have a talk with you?
If it's not allowed, I doubt they 'pulled' the poor lad anywhere...
All that led me to think about the marriage per se. I want to walk on the grass with my girl, want to inhale the scent of her neck and feel the warmth of her glance. And in the evening I want to shampoo her hair and catch a smile that lasts in my memory for good. Is it so childish to wish for an adult?
How unfair that a marriage should suffer from poverty, lack of free time and worn-out feelings. But this is stupid, isn't? Marriage should be regarded as both a financial - (at least in USA, where one person hardly can exist on own salary) - and a hereditial insitution (to conceive and upbring children). I used to think in those terms when I was a teenager. Well I was right. If you love, you don't need any papers and lawyers.
My friend fell perfectly in the second category (incidentally he insemenated that girl who became his wife).
Is this the same friend who's nipping the girl at his work now, or a different friend?
I'm lost.
|| | ||| 6217|| 8 || 3 wrote: How to fight infatuation? A friend of mine said he was infatuated with a person at his work and he said he didn't need all that mess in his life (he's married, got kids, so does that person). They just hired that person. I didn't know what to tell him. I advised to change the job or get over it. Right?
tell them that he is really gay or a virgin, with the virgin bit, they seem to run a million miles from you
Heath Ledger's ACCIDENTAL Overdose (as if) wrote: I just wank while thinking about these:
Didn't know you were infatuated by the glistening.
|| | ||| 6217|| 8 || 3 wrote: All that led me to think about the marriage per se. I want to walk on the grass with my girl, want to inhale the scent of her neck and feel the warmth of her glance. And in the evening I want to shampoo her hair and catch a smile that lasts in my memory for good. Is it so childish to wish for an adult?
Wait long enough and your girl will become an adult soon enough
*UPDATE*
This friend of mine reported that that person has become actually more open to him and they even spend their dining time together at work. Now he said he's kinda confused and doesn't know what to do further because he doesn't really want to mess up his family (wife and kids) and her family. Now her husband is a drugdealer or whatever, and that woman told my friend that her husband is getting really pissed off at him (??) and my friend told me he doesn't need really anymore drama in his life. I told him again to stop fooling around. Is it an impasse for him? 
|| | ||| 6217|| 8 || 3 wrote: *UPDATE* This friend of mine reported that that person has become actually more open to him and they even spend their dining time together at work. Now he said he's kinda confused and doesn't know what to do further because he doesn't really want to mess up his family (wife and kids) and her family. Now her husband is a drugdealer or whatever, and that woman told my friend that her husband is getting really pissed off at him (??) and my friend told me he doesn't need really anymore drama in his life. I told him again to stop fooling around. Is it an impasse for him?
Confused? 
You will be until the next episode...
Gazman wrote:
|| | ||| 6217|| 8 || 3 wrote: *UPDATE* This friend of mine reported that that person has become actually more open to him and they even spend their dining time together at work. Now he said he's kinda confused and doesn't know what to do further because he doesn't really want to mess up his family (wife and kids) and her family. Now her husband is a drugdealer or whatever, and that woman told my friend that her husband is getting really pissed off at him (??) and my friend told me he doesn't need really anymore drama in his life. I told him again to stop fooling around. Is it an impasse for him?
Confused?
You will be until the next episode...
Absolutely - this will be like an episode of the Sopranos! 
I told him: Alexey, you are a fuckin daft moron! Well here's the news that girl's husband apparently got hod lof ger cell phone and called him and the ntexted gim some nasty message. My frined on MSN asks me what to do. I told him to stand up cos there was nothing really happened to shit about.
Alexey, it's business as usual, get your own coat and ocer your blistful ass.
Unfortunately, I think yer friend is at the end of a bad road. I bet this girl loves excitement and controversy. Messing around, or at least the thought, gives her excitement. Plus her husband probably doesn't pay enough attention to her (she likes the dangerous, alloof, mysterious guy) and getting her rocks off on yer friend, and then doubly so when her husband finds out. He tears through the house pissed off, shows how much he's jealous, and this is all a rush for her.... mean while yer friend gets the stab from the husband, and nothing but heartache.
In short, she's using him and he is discardable. unless he seriously wants to destroy his life, I'd drop her like a cheeseburger with a pubic hair sticking outta it....
EdelBrock wrote: Unfortunately, I think yer friend is at the end of a bad road. I bet this girl loves excitement and controversy. Messing around, or at least the thought, gives her excitement. Plus her husband probably doesn't pay enough attention to her (she likes the dangerous, alloof, mysterious guy) and getting her rocks off on yer friend, and then doubly so when her husband finds out. He tears through the house pissed off, shows how much he's jealous, and this is all a rush for her.... mean while yer friend gets the stab from the husband, and nothing but heartache.
In short, she's using him and he is discardable. unless he seriously wants to destroy his life, I'd drop her like a cheeseburger with a pubic hair sticking outta it....
Golden words. I transfer them as they are.
