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Wow, look what you women have done to all of us on here!
My college girlfriend left me -- apparently to pursue her life's goal of being a lesbian -- and I remember days when I would just lie face down on the floor for hours 'cause I didn't have the will to get up. But now it's one of those things I look back on and smile.
And let me award the Golden Cheek award to Mr. Campbell and his harem for managing to flirt with each other on a suicide thread. :evil:
monty wrote: Not worth it.You'll only hurt your family. Look at it another way.I know I did many many years ago.Possible topic of conversation after jumping off a motorway bridge...One Day Later...shock horror,can't believe it.....One Month Later....remember thingy,oh aye......Three months later....Monty who? If you're going to leave this planet,go out the front door with your head high and strive to achieve to do at least 3 new things a year you've never tried before.And do something worthy of something to remember you by,not sadness.
No shit,beginning of last year,wife fucked off after 7 months of marriage.3 weeks of crying in my cocoa.After which..fuck this! I've got a week off,I'm going to go somewhere I may never go again.....so I blew my savings and went on my own(!) to New York. I came back feeling like the Dogs Bollocks. So think on mate,nothing or no one's worth topping yourself for.
It's so true. No matter how bad things may be in your head- if you do something for YOURSELF, you realise that lifes about YOU making yourself happy- not someone else. Besides, you could do alot worse than us lot.
Good friends are hard to come by, at least you know, you will always have friends and support here. We are slightly off the wall, but hey, that's a good thing in this life.
Steve Campbell wrote:
Bugg Tutts wrote: You guys, such a caring bunch, thanks for cheering me up:)
You haven't got the bill yet :D gis a job
See Steve, you've justified your stay at home exsistance! You are needed more here, than any call centre.
Gnu Odor wrote: Wow, look what you women have done to all of us on here!
My college girlfriend left me -- apparently to pursue her life's goal of being a lesbian -- and I remember days when I would just lie face down on the floor for hours 'cause I didn't have the will to get up. But now it's one of those things I look back on and smile.
And let me award the Golden Cheek award to Mr. Campbell and his harem for managing to flirt with each other on a suicide thread. :evil:
DUDE I could flirt with these chicks at a wake....what's not to flirt with
Gnu Odor wrote:
And let me award the Golden Cheek award to Mr. Campbell and his harem for managing to flirt with each other on a suicide thread. :evil:
Just goes to show it's not love will tear us apart but that it will keep us together. 
(well, at least here on NOOL, that is.)
He's sure to get his dance card in real early!
You DO know that's going to be 50 odd years from now, and we'll be all wrinkly and crippled, right? Or are you planning on cryogenically waiting til then? 
ARRRGGGGGHH FUCKING NOOOOOOOO OLD PEOPLE SEX....YOU'LL SEND HIM TO THE FUCKING SAMARITANS AGAIN YOU SICK BASTARDS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Steve Campbell wrote: ARRRGGGGGHH FUCKING NOOOOOOOO OLD PEOPLE SEX....YOU'LL SEND HIM TO THE FUCKING SAMARITANS AGAIN YOU SICK BASTARDS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You fucking crack me up young Steve
Bonzette wrote:
Steve Campbell wrote: ARRRGGGGGHH FUCKING NOOOOOOOO OLD PEOPLE SEX....YOU'LL SEND HIM TO THE FUCKING SAMARITANS AGAIN YOU SICK BASTARDS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You fucking crack me up young Steve
Seconded!
Rocket Mick wrote: Is it just ME or is it a bit dead here tonight?
(more impressed that i understood what the Rocket said....first time since JB's I think. I suspect he may become more damged than I that night)
My advice would be:
Matt Elson wrote: My advice would be:
- To start medication to control your tendancies
- Get fit. Excercise is great for reducing depression
- Don't smoke weed (if you have done)
- Don't drink to excess as it makes your serotonin level lower for a few days afterwards.
- Spend a lot of time with your mates and family. Right now you need unconditional support
- Try and enjoy the simple things in life like nature
- Go on a holiday and get some sun
- Keep yourself busy so you don't think negative thoughts
- Learn about cognitive behavioural therapy
- Write a letter to your ex, read it to an empty chair, then burn it
suicide or 'cry for help'?
there's a world of shit between them.
I'd wrap my arms around anyone suicidal and not let go. (not assuming that a hug from me would sort it out, just I wouldnt let them do it)
this thread is a bit uncomfortable.
WHO HASNT THOUGHT ABOUT IT???
Our heritage is from a suicidal bloke called Ian.
But suicide? FOOK OFF.
It's the shitiest act a human can do, a fookin waste. Total selfish cunts trick. Bottle merchant.
Stick 'Ruined in a Day' on....and wallow in self pity,
then stick SUNRISE on and appreciate just how GOOD life IS
err. right. I'm not so fookin stupid to think that a record can lift someone out of depression. OK
But fer fooks sake, if you feel suicidal go get some proper help.
AND STOP BRINGING US HAPPY PEOPLE DOWN.
HARSH..BUT FAIR
I dont listen to JD anymore, coz I'm not in tune with Ian anymore.
Bollocks, I'm not making any sense to myself as I type.
I guess what I'm trying to say is....and am not sure how this will be received is...
THIS IS THE SHITTIEST THREAD I HAVE EVER SEEN ON THE INTERNET...
NEW FUCKIN ORDER, NEW - FUCKIN - ORDER.
NEW FOOKIN ORDER is about fun, joy, eveything that is good.
If you have listened to New Order and still feel like killin yourself then go ahead, coz you HAVE NO salvation.
Fancy doin it online?
Well I wont watch, aint worth it.
NEW FOOKIN ORRRRRDDAAHHHH
yeah i agree with the not being "in tune" with Ian anymore ,BA.
I think my being in tune with him days are long gone,back in 84 or 87.These days they are just a fashionable name to say you're into.
Atmosphere is still great, though.i just can't listen to the whole Heart & Soul boxset !!!
interesting how easily people leap to the idea of mind controlling drugs and therapy.
I'd consider those the lasted of last resorts. Friends will listen to you.....and that's all a therapist does really...but I friend won't turn their ear off when the meter runs empty. And what's this kind of "prozac good weed bad" thing? I sully understand the potential for cannabis to put things under a microscope, and if you're someone who's not used to that it's probably a bad plan....otherwise you'll proably be fine....although in any such thing it's best to pay total attention to what external factors are affecting your mood. If you;re usually stoned, stay straight for a day or two to see if it help.
Excessive beer is SO bad SO SO bad.....I have done all the reprehensable things in my life while shitefaced on booze. Inluding taking a fillet knife to my wrist and JUST getting lucky (when I was getting the wound dressed you could SEE the artery!)....over a chick who wouldn't shag me. We're still mates to add a good sized orchestra hit of irony into mix.
my anti-suicide habit is just throwing on some insane comedy, or listening to richard pryor (bless him) or putting on 586 looped with Ecstasy and shaking all the funk out.
Or going for a drive. A drive at 3am is wonderful medicine for a knackered brain.
Or write. I write a lot, and it's useful to just get it out and then mock it three sides of wednesday after i've 'sobered' up so to speak.
Steve Campbell wrote: interesting how easily people leap to the idea of mind controlling drugs and therapy.
I'd consider those the lasted of last resorts. Friends will listen to you.....and that's all a therapist does really...but I friend won't turn their ear off when the meter runs empty.
Not so. A good thereapist does so much more than listen. I'm not one for the drugs, if i can avoid them at all, but a good therapist can really help.
And what's this kind of "prozac good weed bad" thing? I sully understand the potential for cannabis to put things under a microscope, and if you're someone who's not used to that it's probably a bad plan....otherwise you'll proably be fine....although in any such thing it's best to pay total attention to what external factors are affecting your mood. If you;re usually stoned, stay straight for a day or two to see if it help.
Excessive beer is SO bad SO SO bad.....I have done all the reprehensable things in my life while shitefaced on booze. Inluding taking a fillet knife to my wrist and JUST getting lucky (when I was getting the wound dressed you could SEE the artery!)....over a chick who wouldn't shag me. We're still mates to add a good sized orchestra hit of irony into mix.
Don't know about weed, but alcohol is a depressant-- the last thing on earth a depressed person needs.
Matt Elson wrote: My advice would be:
- To start medication to control your tendancies
- Get fit. Excercise is great for reducing depression
- Don't smoke weed (if you have done)
- Don't drink to excess as it makes your serotonin level lower for a few days afterwards.
- Spend a lot of time with your mates and family. Right now you need unconditional support
- Try and enjoy the simple things in life like nature
- Go on a holiday and get some sun
- Keep yourself busy so you don't think negative thoughts
- Learn about cognitive behavioural therapy
- Write a letter to your ex, read it to an empty chair, then burn it
All sound advice.
I've seen two bits of advice on depression: 1) Exercise is perhaps the best thing one can do for depression. Aerobic exercise and depression are incompatible. 2) Start cognitive behavioural therapy (Part of why a therapist is more than a "paid listener.").
I've always found it helpful to have a ritual burning of the ex's letters, photos, etc. Except for the last one. She wasn't worth a burning, so I just dumped her letters in the garbage where they belonged.
Bugg Tutts wrote: Not the happiest of topics, but since I split with my long time girlfriend ,two years ago, my life seems to have descended into misery. Am I depressed? I think about topping myself at least once a day. My mood swings from happy to sad at the drop of a hat. Whats a bugg tutt like me to do?
buggtutt@hotmail.co.uk
I'd recommend you book an appointment with your local GP as soon as possible and explain how you're feeling in as much detail as you can. That's what they're there for. From there he/she should gauge the situation and if necessary refer you to a counsellor where you can have simple chats about anything on your mind. They won't simply push you out of the door with a bucket load of pills as that can sometimes only compound a problem.
Talking with close friends is recommended of course but sometimes also talking to someone who doesn't know you, is impartial and won't necessarily tell you what you want to hear is a good way forward. Chatting with an outsider might help take the rose tinted view off certain areas or attitudes towards your old relationship you might possibly be avoiding.
Speaking personally, we all feel varying degrees of heartache over the end of a relationship but I must admit I've never had suicidal thoughts over a girl. Although, the abrupt end of my first long-term relationship depressed me for so long (about a year) I simply woke up one day and suddenly got bored of being pissed off. It was like a period of mourning had finally passed and bloody hell it felt good. I suppose I was lucky but I was definitely in a 'sorry for myself' and depressive state for a wee while there.
I really hope you reach a similar conclusion 
No woman (or bloke for the ladies :) ) is worth your state of mind in the long run, ever.
no training at all me....let's see.... learning to play an instrument take up fishing, particularly freshwater with all it's delicacies. play postal 2 or doom 3 or quake 1 2 or 4 for while.
the reaons I'm so down on this kind of thing are.....
When I was young, as part of the process of being taken off my mum and deposited at my aunt's...i had to go through various evaluations and sort of (I don't remember the stupid term in vogue all those years ago) transition easing sessions. All nonsense, all crap. I got steadily worse during the entire duration of my stay at my aunts, and even afterwards until those people were out of my hair. It was lying social workers and child psychotherapists and psycholigists that gave me a fair proportion of my mistrust of all authority. by 17/18 I was a vicious, uncontrolled asshole....hadn't been at 11 when they'd got involved...lots of good. Of course you COULD argue the situation was bad anyway, it was....but people telling you "it'll be 5 weeks " and it turning out to be 5 years...or bleedin therapists telling you "if you do this it'll be fine, and if it's not we'll take about it next time, never to see them again and for their great suggestion to be a waste of time. The only thing that started to bring me round was the love of friends, making some good ones at last (kid with glasses and more than 4 braincells in the local loyalist terror training school (or high school as they are elsewhere known) always gonna be a dead man).
Still through my 20's things went badly wrong once in a while like they do for everyone....and I came close to loseing my mind on several occassions...and seriously considered help....but was too busy benig freaked out to do anything about it. (these were times (well 2)when friends were in short supply) So I forgot to seek help amd worked it out on my own.
Since my mid 20's I've been just peachy apart from the usual heartbreaks...I still take them hard, but such depressive dark thoughts don't enter into my head.
Also....Therapy is like 10 times as popular in the US as in the UK.....now hands up ANYONE who things Americans are 10 times saner than us?
But that's just me maybe.....thick headed and thick skinned from all the crappy people when I was younger. Maybe others really DO need it, and I'm just letting personal annoyances get in the way of sensible debate, i dunno. The company sent me to their doctor about my illness the other day (the usual attempt to prove I'm not sick)...and he just gawped at me when I told him I hadn't asked my GP for anti depressants with my being off for so long and SO restricted in mobility.I thought.... Anti boredom pills maybe....but happy pills just cos I'm in constant PHYSICAL pain? naaaaaaaa morphine maybe :)
i have been through the lowest points in my life this last 18 months and the thought "I want to end it" never ocurred to me....not to say a couple of it's mates didn;t call like......
"I really want this to end, don;t care how" and....what I'm pretty much feeling now....
"if it still hurts you simply can't have taken a toxic amount of painkillers so it's OK to have more" (which is only a problem because I don;t know whether a little too much would just make me green....or whether it's like paracetamol....over do it and die (3 days later in pain).
I'm rambling sorry.
Erm, cognitive behavior therapy just trains you to recognize when you're dwelling on negative thoughts, and how to get out of that downward spiral of dwelling on them.
my bad....look I am actually totally shattered on those wee fookers just now :) Oddly enough worked out that kind of thing myself....the ability to step back and say...hold on boyo.
Speaking of spirals....I mentioned somewhere else earlier. I went through days of horrible depression earlier this year before realising it was feedback from from stomach so to speak. The various drugs had given me the stomach you get when you are TERRIBLY anxious...so I started to feel anxious. it was horrible I dragged poor leanne down with me too...and she never let go nor looked like thinking about it.
A couple of weeks later....same things...woke up in a cold swet, freakingout of my mind...this time I stuck my head down the bog and threw up and got on with a happy (relaitively ) day.
Anyway, that's just as an intersting aside.
78681 wrote: erm...not to divert attention here...but anybody know how my ankle got so swollen???
was it that lesbian? did she have a go at you?
Johnny wrote: yeah i agree with the not being "in tune" with Ian anymore ,BA.
I think my being in tune with him days are long gone,back in 84 or 87.These days they are just a fashionable name to say you're into.
Atmosphere is still great, though.i just can't listen to the whole Heart & Soul boxset !!!
totally agree Johnny....yer just grow up dont yer?
New Order fills the boots, JD just makes yer nostalgic.
errr,, why do I keep saying 'yer' instead of 'you' ?
melly (msh) wrote:
78681 wrote: erm...not to divert attention here...but anybody know how my ankle got so swollen???
was it that lesbian? did she have a go at you?
I don't reckon it would be my ankle that would be swollen in THAT case...
I've got a wee bit of an update for THAT story...but it shall wait until I am a bit more sober...
