Representative

El Jarvo wrote: Frankly, this is just all a bit trite, isn't it? People, take a grip and think first about what you're posting.

Turn up at Tony's funeral 'representing' all the people who post here?

Send a donation but mark it from 'Neworderonline.com'?

Send a list of members names to say how sad we all are?

Talk about jumping the gun.

And as per my point late last night, I don't see why people just can't do things off their own backs? If you want to send a card, flowers or a donation, or even turn up at the funeral, then do it under your own steam. Don't shout about it. Everyone deals with grief in their own personal way and nobody, but nobody here, is gonna grieve on behalf of me through some 'collective'.

Really, I'm quite saddened by some people's rather facile reaction to all this.

Do you take things backwards on purpose?

The point is, that one, person/wreath/donation is a lot less intrusive and invasive for Tony's family that 10,000 individual ones. There are a LOT of people here who would like to extend sympathies in some way or another, what I was attempting to propose was that we limit our irritation to his family, rather than have each of us show up/send flowers/whatever.

But if you want the poor sods spammed to death, work away mate, that's your call.

PS: For the record, I was not proposing that this be done in the name of NOOL, I tend to agree that that would be more than a bit lame.

Doctor? wrote:

The point is, that one, person/wreath/donation is a lot less intrusive and invasive for Tony's family that 10,000 individual ones. There are a LOT of people here who would like to extend sympathies in some way or another, what I was attempting to propose was that we limit our irritation to his family, rather than have each of us show up/send flowers/whatever.

Think your numbers are a bit out, Cambo. I can't see that many people going out of their way to send a wreath or actually physically go the funeral. In fact, I imagine there must be only mebbe 10 people that actually knew him who regularly post on here, if that. Any contribution from here should be limited to donations to a cancer charity, and not one that should allow for individual trumpeting on these pages.

Does anyone have any details of the funeral arrangements? If so, please don't post them on here. Funerals should be private IMHO, i.e. let his family and friends grieve properly.

Surely, with Manchester's recently rediscovered adoration for the man, he will be granted some kind of memorial service, which no doubt will be a more light-hearted free-for-all affair, to celebrate his life, rather than mark its passing.

Funerals are rubbish anyway. Wouldn't catch me at one unless I was specifically asked to attend.

Nothing fucking sadder than a pop fan (never mind 10,000 of the bastards) trying to muscle in on their idol's private lives.

I'll hang on for the memorial rave.

El Jarvo wrote:

Doctor? wrote: Do you take things backwards on purpose?

The point is, that one, person/wreath/donation is a lot less intrusive and invasive for Tony's family that 10,000 individual ones. There are a LOT of people here who would like to extend sympathies in some way or another, what I was attempting to propose was that we limit our irritation to his family, rather than have each of us show up/send flowers/whatever.

Get a grip Cambo, I'm not taking things backwards here at all.

I don't think Wilson's family should be spammed whatsoever. If I did, however, feel I wanted to do something at my end, send a donation or whatever, then I'm not going to be dictated to by people on a website who I barely know, now am I?

I will say though that I do find your original suggestion that a website should in someway be 'represented' at Wilson's funeral very wide of the mark. Or if it's not in the name of 'NOOL' as you've just said, then in whose name do you suggest? I fail to see where the common ground lies otherwise. I don't see why one single soul here thinks they should be there? I just find that very intrusive.

Well I thought it would be "in the name of" errrm a bunch of people who love the band he brought us, if in the name of anything at all.

I see your point however that things like this are extremely personal by their very nature.

Twas just a thought, and now is not the time for us to be arguing over stuff.

Send a list of members names to say how sad we all are?

I can`t see "members names" written in my post.

Well, if we needed total agreement for everything we want to do here, nothing would ever be done. But wouldn't be a bit of lack of consideration just do not do anything in this case? Not like it would make difference, but the site is about Tony too. At least a note in the front page of the website?