when everything's gone wrong…

Rocket Mick wrote: Planet KIRSCH-may the force be with you!

thanks rocket. i think i hit rock bottom about a week ago. no doub't there'll be a few more ups and downs to come.

*I was following the first rule : have a good night sleep*

The force and woody (nice avatar Taboo) are with everyone of us…

karine wrote: *I was following the first rule : have a good night sleep*

The force and woody (nice avatar Taboo) are with everyone of us…

good to hear you had a good sleep.

i wish tabsy would get rid of that avatar. it is a truely awful picture of mr allen.

karine wrote: *I was following the first rule : have a good night sleep*

The force and woody (nice avatar Taboo) are with everyone of us…

Eh... good sleep? I hoped you would have one... but 6 hours is definetely is not my kind of good sleep. Glad you're back though. It's about time to take tough decisions, Karine ;)

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karine wrote: *I was following the first rule : have a good night sleep*

The force and woody (nice avatar Taboo) are with everyone of us…

Eh... good sleep? I hoped you would have one... but 6 hours is definetely is not my kind of good sleep. Glad you're back though. It's about time to take tough decisions, Karine ;)

i'd say give it another two or three good sleeps before you make any decisions.

I go fishing.

Ronald Kirsch wrote:

[orange]|| | ||| 6217|| 8 || 3[/orange] wrote:

karine wrote: *I was following the first rule : have a good night sleep*

The force and woody (nice avatar Taboo) are with everyone of us…

Eh... good sleep? I hoped you would have one... but 6 hours is definetely is not my kind of good sleep. Glad you're back though. It's about time to take tough decisions, Karine ;)

i'd say give it another two or three good sleeps before you make any decisions.

delay, always delay…

hem, considering I've been for a few month running with the idea the moment wasn't "right" to make a change…

I think I'll have to DO something, before getting bored.

I'm sorry if anyone actually believed that I felt bad… it's just my life that doesn't make any sense for the moment (it's happened before, you know).

They're so much things to do, I just don't know where to start and wanted some advices about your own experiences of "disaster"

Thanks for all, it helps.

john kershaw wrote: I go fishing.

I think I'm not patient enough for this kind of sport…

its great is fishing.

you should see my tackle

Christopher Owens wrote:

Johnny wrote:

I always say that quitting a job and travelling abroad is one of the best things you can do.I quit a job, back when i was 25, and went backpacking with a mate round half the middle east.And one of the best things about it was giving a big finger to all the people who said i'd never do it.They just took it for granted that i was going to settle for staying in that job.

And you still stick to principles like those today. Do you think you're a much better person now, then what you would have been if you had stayed in the job?

I'm a better person yeah,definitely.I think so anyway.Apart from the trip being a right good crack and a laugh i discovered quite a few things about myself.Some good and some bad.But discovering the bad things made be able to work on changing them.

I stil believe everyone should spend at least a year or two travelling.I'm not really in a position to do it now.But i had nothing to stay here for when i was 25 and i think anyone in that position should do the same.

But i think all this life evaluation is a January thing.It's just the time of year when we think like that.Once the year get's into rhythm life and things will start happening when you didn't expect or plan it.

Last year I realised that my life wasn't making much sense and that I had to do something about it. I had the feeling that both my personal life and my professional life had never been under my control and that I had gone through happenchance since as far as I remembered.

Then (happenchance again...) the company I work for signed me up to a training on "decision making". The leitmotif of the whole training was "let your objectives be your guide". Until then, I hadn't thought about my life under the objectives standpoint. I realised that many of my failures could be explained by a lack of proactiveness or by the fact that I didn't believe in my ability to make things change.

Since then, I've been trying to appropriate this leitmotiv and to concentrate my efforts on my personal objectives. And it works! I gained self-confidance, I fixed the biggest problems in my personal life and I gave my carreer a new start, just by taking the right actions without letting external disturbances (like the influence of my family or my colleagues) stop me. This may seem a very selfish philosophy but it actually isn't because it forces you to be more honnest and deeply involved in your friendship, family or professional relationships. Of course this change of attitude may hurt some people; probably those who (voluntarily or not) inhibited your self-fulfilment.

So, think about it: let your objectives be your guide.